I’ve always said that business is your life and your life is your business. If you’re a leader in your business then you can use those same skills to lead your life, and your kids — even once they transition into adulthood.

Here are some dynamic leadership tools to get you started.

Empowering others to succeed

Seeing your child succeed at life is every parent’s biggest desire. Success doesn’t have to be about driving the right car, having the right career or owning the best house in the nicest neighbourhood. What if success is more about empowering others to be everything they are?

Empower your daughter or son to do the things they are good at. It’s very different to telling them what to do. By asking your child what they know you can empower them to make their own choices, even if they end up making mistakes.

Years ago in my job as world wide coordinator of Access Consciousness® I made a choice that wasn’t the best choice for the business. I asked Gary Douglas, the founder of Access, “Why did you allow me to make that choice?” He said, “I could have told you what to do and I could have told you what would have worked, but you wouldn’t have had the awareness. Now you have the awareness for life. No one can take that away from you.”

Dealing with conflict

It’s not always comfortable being a parent. There are times when you have to address things that are not so easy to confront. For example, a quarrel amongst your children may lead to finger-pointing, blame shifting, and naming and shaming. What do you do?

In such a situation you really have to function from an interested point of view. An interested point of view is where you don’t make anybody right or wrong. You simply look at all the pieces of information with a sense of detachment. Be willing to expand your zone of awareness and not just focus on something as though that were the truth and the whole truth.

If something feels strange when you’re talking to someone it could be because what they’re telling you is only partly true. So ask yourself, is this truth or is it a truth with a lie attached? For example, if someone is saying this person has done that, be aware and recognise when it’s not appropriate for them to be doing so. You don’t have to find out what the truth or the lie is. Simply look at the bigger picture, from an interested point of view, and ask what else is possible here. The more you know about what is occurring, the greater choices you have available.